When things suck a little, improve your collaborative culture

Do you care about your organization’s performance and productivity? I’m guessing “Yes”! Do you know how much of it is reliant on how well people “play nice together”?

Sometimes, when we’ve got our head down, doing the work, we forget to look up and at each other. And when we do, it can feel a little irritating. (Of course it’s not you!)

Here’s a quick video about why we should talk. Share it with those you know that also value leadership development and performance.

And then, let’s talk. 🙂

The most successful leaders are not infallible when faced with someone who “drives them crazy!” Monique Caissie’s corporate keynote or training called “CAN’T WE JUST GET ALONG?: How To Go From Conflict To Collaboration” is appreciated by all who would like more control over their professional and personal lives. Monique draws from 30 years of crisis intervention work to help others increase their confidence to feel more heard, respected and happier. 

 

 

 

 

Why Investing In Communications Training Matters

While networking, I asked an HR professional of a mid-sized company (150 employees) when would she hire a communications expert like me to come and train her employees. She told me she never has because there’s no budget. Then she added that all training budgets were for technical training and only the C-suite folks do retreats, team building and leadership development.

Oh?!?

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3 Secrets to Staying Calm when Receiving Unexpected Feedback

I was given some feedback about my participation in a closed Facebook group that felt somewhat harsh at first. Now, I want to point out that I deeply respect and admire the person who was telling me this. If it had been someone who I didn’t respect, I might not have taken any notice of his comment. But when he brought it up, I felt guilty wondering if I had done something wrong. (Probably because he was so apologetic for bringing it usimple feedback can be a trigger that causes you to become defensive.”p when he told me, which made it sound worse than it was.)

What is funny is that it was such a small thing, and he just wanted to nip it in the bud. I’ll tell you the story below.

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The 4 Secrets To Making A Difficult Situation Better

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Anger or anxiety disables our thinking brain. We need to re-calibrate what we are thinking in order to reclaim our emotional balance. That being said, when someone is putting pressure on us or elevating our blood pressure, stepping back and approaching things differently can help improve the outcome. Continue reading

Review, Release And Resonate Your Way To Success

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I just came back from a two day “Think Tank” for forward thinking business people. This experience gave me an opportunity to reflect on the people I’ve been hanging out with since deciding to tip my toe in the world of entrepreneurialism.

Besides laughing and socializing, we shared many personal stories of challenges and how we overcame them; learning from each other. Continue reading

How To Manage “Negative Neil” And “Debbie Downer”

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Oh no. You can hear them coming down the hall and are wishing you could hide under your desk. Being on a team project with them can feel like there’s no escaping them. You know who I’m talking about: the nay-sayers and folks who seem to go around thinking there’s a contest to be won for complaining or seeing the worst out of every situation.

I remember a friend’s husband being one of the most negative people I have ever met. If you said the sun was shining, he’d start talking about global warming. Any idea you had that made you feel inspired and motivated, he could throw cold water on it and prove to you why it would not work and the plain pointlessness of it all. Continue reading

3 Reasons To Stop Being So Damn Collaborative

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When we think of the best teams, many people aim for collaboration as the most desirable trait in the members and the leaders. While a collaborative approach targets the best win/win scenario that everyone can hope for, there are times where leaders need to step away and adopt a more directive stance.

If we are naturally collaborative, we may have a hard time taking over and controlling the situation.

Here are 3 times when we need to be aware that collaboration is not always the panacea the Buddhists monks may be alluding to. Continue reading

Are You Lying To Yourself About Employee Engagement?

Employee EngagementSo you think you are observant. Everyone seems to be getting along. After all, they come to work everyday and smile when you walk by. If people weren’t communicating well, you’d know! Right?

Today, I decided to do a quick video to share my thoughts on this.

 

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Is That Your Problem?

Look closerSmart leaders don’t only delegate to others, they have a habit of quickly analyzing each situation as it crosses their desk.  We need to stop and ask ourselves if that is really our problem to solve.
Recently, I was coaching someone who is being groomed for a leadership position in her organization. She was telling me about this older man who keeps speaking to her about problems as though she should be fixing them. She tends to react as though it is her responsibility. She now realizes that she has to discern between what is her responsibility and when it is appropriate to delegate. Continue reading

Challenging Your Confidence and Taking it to the Bank

take your confidence to the bankIt was 1979 and fresh out of high school, she was excited to have her first real job in a bank so close to her house. Even though it was entry level, the HR girl had told her that her testing indicated she scored extremely high and was ready to be promoted as soon as a cashier post opened up. She settled into the checking department, waiting for that opportunity.

Although everyone started in checking or savings, some never left because they didn’t have the right touch with the customers. Debbie, the girl who sat across from her, was not very bright. Although they could both apply for any opening, she felt confident that Debbie was not serious competition. There was no doubt that she would get the next job. Continue reading