What’s The Matter With You?

It’s very easy to judge another. Everyone does it.

On Friday, we went to grab a bite at Wendy’s.  Ahead of us, there was an impatient woman, waiting to be served while a confused, older gentleman was trying to order a Papa burger. A&W is across the street.

They were opening another cash register while the woman angrily barked at the man that A&W is across the street and that this is Wendy’s. Continue reading

Am I allowed to say that?

When I first heard “haters gotta hate”, I didn’t know what it meant until I changed the words to “saboteurs gotta sabotage”. Then it made sense.

When I decided to go out on my own and be an entrepreneur, the skills I needed were opposite from what my environment taught me.

After all, to attract paying clients, I have to put myself out there.
I have to tell people my stories so they can laugh at what not to do.
This is my method of teaching others what I have learned in the school of hard knocks. Continue reading

Suspect Psychosis? Video of “Say This – Not That”

Bell Let’s Talk was over a month ago. But we need to do that all year. Mental Health Stigma stops us from having frank discussions that make all the difference at work or at home.

So, in the pursuit of giving us another opportunity to talk, I did a webinar(my first) and invited folks to a conversation afterwards. Below is the video of what I taught. Continue reading

5 Ways That Valentine’s Day Can Improve Your Professional Life

We begin every year with new resolutions and a commitment to making positive changes in our life. A fresh start! Healthier habits! Better relationships! Then it’s January 3rd

Well for better relationships, we get to try again starting on February 14th.

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Do you wait for a crisis to do something?

In speaking with a new networking connection, I was telling her that my speaking or training aims to help people create more collaborative environments. She told me that she didn’t need my services because she didn’t have any toxic environments to fix at the moment.

She was surprised at my response. Continue reading

My Happiest Dysfunctional Christmas

Merry Christmas(As published in Huffington Post)

It was 1991 and my first Christmas in my new home after my emotionally draining divorce. We lived in a depressed area. My family was 400 km / 250 miles away. I was struggling financially with a small business, helping in the community where I could, while nurturing my four-year-old who had some health challenges. There wasn’t a lot of money but honestly, nobody had a lot of money there.

Little did I know that I would get to play Santa for so many people that year. It still remains one of my best Christmases ever. Continue reading

Survival Guide to the Holiday Flu

1925344-li(As published in Huffington Post)

I still remember as a little girl while at school, I suddenly began to feel very poorly and almost passed out. When the school nurse took my temperature, she immediately called my father to come bring me home. By the time he got there, the cold compresses had had their effect and I felt quite normal. My father punished me for faking a temperature and pretending to faint. To this day when I get sick, I try to power through, convincing myself that it will pass. Continue reading

How To Unconsciously Damage Important Relationships

1893505-1000xI love walking around the lake near my home. There’s this white-haired bearded man who looks like a Himalayan guru. Over the years, when we’ve crossed paths, we’ve walked around the lake to chitchat like old friends. We never think to ask each other’s names, but we have the most delightful conversations.
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How To Handle Political Differences At The Dinner Table

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Growing up in Montreal, Quebec during the rise of a separatist political party in the 1970’s, this gave me a front row seat to how families can be divided because of political differences. Every Sunday, after church, this division played out in my living room.
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The 4 Secrets To Making A Difficult Situation Better

copingPublished on HuffPost.

Anger or anxiety disables our thinking brain. We need to re-calibrate what we are thinking in order to reclaim our emotional balance. That being said, when someone is putting pressure on us or elevating our blood pressure, stepping back and approaching things differently can help improve the outcome. Continue reading