Am I allowed to say that?

When I first heard “haters gotta hate”, I didn’t know what it meant until I changed the words to “saboteurs gotta sabotage”. Then it made sense.

When I decided to go out on my own and be an entrepreneur, the skills I needed were opposite from what my environment taught me.

After all, to attract paying clients, I have to put myself out there.
I have to tell people my stories so they can laugh at what not to do.
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Why Investing In Communications Training Matters

While networking, I asked an HR professional of a mid-sized company (150 employees) when would she hire a communications expert like me to come and train her employees. She told me she never has because there’s no budget. Then she added that all training budgets were for technical training and only the C-suite folks do retreats, team building and leadership development.

Oh?!?

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It’s Not Easy Dealing With The Holiday Scrooge At Work

workplace scrooge(As published in Huffington Post)

Susan was a fellow office manager. She was given a budget to decorate for Christmas and as she transformed our offices with green and tinsel, she also loudly voiced what a waste of time and money this was. To her, Christmas was about family – not work. The daily snippy comments were annoying.
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How To Unconsciously Damage Important Relationships

1893505-1000xI love walking around the lake near my home. There’s this white-haired bearded man who looks like a Himalayan guru. Over the years, when we’ve crossed paths, we’ve walked around the lake to chitchat like old friends. We never think to ask each other’s names, but we have the most delightful conversations.
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Review, Release And Resonate Your Way To Success

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I just came back from a two day “Think Tank” for forward thinking business people. This experience gave me an opportunity to reflect on the people I’ve been hanging out with since deciding to tip my toe in the world of entrepreneurialism.

Besides laughing and socializing, we shared many personal stories of challenges and how we overcame them; learning from each other. Continue reading

How To Manage “Negative Neil” And “Debbie Downer”

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Oh no. You can hear them coming down the hall and are wishing you could hide under your desk. Being on a team project with them can feel like there’s no escaping them. You know who I’m talking about: the nay-sayers and folks who seem to go around thinking there’s a contest to be won for complaining or seeing the worst out of every situation.

I remember a friend’s husband being one of the most negative people I have ever met. If you said the sun was shining, he’d start talking about global warming. Any idea you had that made you feel inspired and motivated, he could throw cold water on it and prove to you why it would not work and the plain pointlessness of it all. Continue reading

Do They Know They’re Being Aggressive?

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I’m currently taking a refresher course on dealing with aggressiveness in someone we want to have a relationship with. When someone tells me that they are chronically being treated aggressively, it is clear that people are not insisting on respect as the foundation of their communications. Often, because they don’t even know how to begin.

If someone behaves in a way where they chronically treat you disrespectfully, even if it is an old problem with a lot of history, it’s not too late!

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Can Being Too Honest Shoot You In The Foot?

Can we be too honestThis article was also posted on Huffington Post

“I won’t work for someone who is not honest.” Jack said. “I have to trust them or I won’t give them my best. After all, I am always honest and they can take my word to the bank!”

How noble to be truthful. That being said, how it is managed and expressed can be problematic.

In this recent conversation, Jack is telling me how unlucky he’s been, working for all these dishonest companies, he’s thinking of leaving his current employer. He is complaining to me how people should appreciate his deep integrity. Continue reading

3 Compelling Reasons Why It’s Not Working Anymore

This isn't working anymore

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Lately, my schedule has had a huge to-do list every day. I move from one task to the next with barely time to plan ahead. I thought I’d share three slightly embarrassing wake up calls that made me realize that it’s time to slow down and do things differently.

Event #1

Last Thursday morning, looking at the day’s events ahead I decided to book a couple of personal afternoon appointments at the end of my workday that I had been putting off.

I called my dog’s groomer to see if I could bring him over to get his nails clipped at 3 PM. Continue reading

The Truth About Their Flaws

ImperfectYesterday, between moments of writhing in pain under my skilled physiotherapist’s hands, the conversation, as it often does, turned to what we expect from our relationships.

During her dating years, a terrific guy friend got annoyed at her bellyaching and told her to stop looking for the perfect guy to marry. There is no perfect guy! He said:

“Find the guy who has flaws you can live with.”

How brilliant is that?

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