Making the Time to Grieve: Even if Nobody has Died

When we love and care for someone who suffers from a serious mental illness, there are beautiful, joyful moments where everything is well managed.
The best of everything and everyone is possible.
I try to take pictures with my heart at those moments.

Then, every number of years, there is a major health crisis. Continue reading

What do you mean “Just”?

I have a client who is dealing with a bad boss. Her boss gets hysterical over inconsequential things, doesn’t plan well or communicate with the staff and is putting the organization at risk.

Her life is spent putting out fires while his is spent lighting them.

Although she has bravely spoken up and alerted the people above him, this will take a while. Continue reading

You are Amazing! Wait. What did you say?

Out of the blue, someone I know professionally wrote me a quick Facebook private message telling me he thinks I’m amazing. Truthfully, I didn’t even know how to respond. I read it and sat with it for a couple of hours before I responded. It truly confused and bothered me.

He was not pointing to anything in particular I had done.
I expected he was most likely responding to a Facebook opinion post. Continue reading

Suspect Psychosis? Video of “Say This – Not That”

Bell Let’s Talk was over a month ago. But we need to do that all year. Mental Health Stigma stops us from having frank discussions that make all the difference at work or at home.

So, in the pursuit of giving us another opportunity to talk, I did a webinar(my first) and invited folks to a conversation afterwards. Below is the video of what I taught. Continue reading

How to Communicate with Someone who is Suffering from a Psychosis

Mental health is top of mind for all employers. When we are faced with someone struggling with anxiety, depression or other main stream challenges, there is a lot of information out there to help us help them.

But when our valuable employee seems to be very sick, perhaps paranoid or delusional, what to do is not taught in HR or business school.

And if someone we love is struggling, we worry about upsetting them and hurting the relationship. So we stay silent.

Over the years, I’ve learned a few tricks so I’m going to give a crash course Wednesday of next week. Click below to learn more and register for the webinar.

Here’s what we’ll cover.

  • Are they being difficult when they refuse to go for help?
  • Are they in denial?
  • What should you be saying?
  • What should you NOT be saying?

Join us to find out how to help the person in difficulty.

After I’ve shared some information, there will be a Q & A.

For people who know someone who is sick and refuse to believe they need help, this information can save a life.

For the rest of us, it’s just really good to know when dealing with someone who doesn’t believe there’s anything wrong with them.

THE WEBINAR IS OVER. IF YOU’D LIKE TO VIEW IT, SEND ME AN EMAIL: [email protected]

May all those you care about be brain healthy!

Monique Caissie’s facilitated dialogue “Demystifying Mental Illness” tackles the taboos and is appreciated by organizations that are ready to improve their professional and personal lives. Monique draws from 30 years of crisis intervention work to empower others to have more productive dialogues and improve collaboration in the workplace. You can download a brochure on these services here.

 

5 Ways That Valentine’s Day Can Improve Your Professional Life

We begin every year with new resolutions and a commitment to making positive changes in our life. A fresh start! Healthier habits! Better relationships! Then it’s January 3rd

Well for better relationships, we get to try again starting on February 14th.

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Waiting for a Crisis to do Something Seems Kinda Dumb

In speaking with a new networking connection, I was telling her that my speaking or training aims to help people create more collaborative environments. She told me that she didn’t need my services because she didn’t have any toxic environments to fix at the moment.

She was surprised at my response. Continue reading

The Truth About Stigma For Mental Health Workers

Having worked in mental health and as a crisis worker, I have seen the back storage room of the store. It’s not good news. Bell Let’s Talk day (January 25th) is a reminder of how much we need to blow the lid off the stigma of mental Illness, for everyone.

I am thinking of a woman that I really admire. She had spent most of her social worker years helping people afflicted with different mental health disorders. Continue reading

3 Secrets to Stay Calm When Receiving Unexpected Feedback

I was given some feedback about my participation in a closed Facebook group that felt somewhat harsh at first. Now, I want to point out that I deeply respect and admire the person who was telling me this. If it had been someone who I didn’t respect, I might not have taken any notice of his comment. But when he brought it up, I felt guilty wondering if I had done something wrong. (Probably because he was so apologetic for bringing it usimple feedback can be a trigger that causes you to become defensive.”p when he told me, which made it sound worse than it was.)

What is funny is that it was such a small thing, and he just wanted to nip it in the bud. I’ll tell you the story below.

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The Benefit of Not Feeling Attached To Outcomes

If you have children, you have probably read something at some point about how to raise a happy child. They all include the advice of “Love them unconditionally”.

No matter what our children do, love them beyond the behavior. Otherwise, our act of resentment will drag them down and hold them back in life.

Successful parenting always has components of forgiveness, adapting and letting go. Those are elements of unconditional love. Continue reading