We begin every year with new resolutions and a commitment to making positive changes in our life. A fresh start! Healthier habits! Better relationships! Then it’s January 3rd …
Well for better relationships, we get to try again starting on February 14th.
In speaking with a new networking connection, I was telling her that my speaking or training aims to help people create more collaborative environments. She told me that she didn’t need my services because she didn’t have any toxic environments to fix at the moment.
She was surprised at my response. Continue reading
Having worked in mental health and as a crisis worker, I have seen the back storage room of the store. It’s not good news. Bell Let’s Talk day (January 25th) is a reminder of how much we need to blow the lid off the stigma of mental Illness, for everyone.
I am thinking of a woman that I really admire. She had spent most of her social worker years helping people afflicted with different mental health disorders. Continue reading
(As published in Huffington Post)
Susan was a fellow office manager. She was given a budget to decorate for Christmas and as she transformed our offices with green and tinsel, she also loudly voiced what a waste of time and money this was. To her, Christmas was about family – not work. The daily snippy comments were annoying.
(Published in Huffington Post)
As a recovering doormat, I struggled with setting boundaries. But first, I needed to figure out when my boundaries were actually being crossed. When working as a counselor in mental health, I got a crash course on personality disorders. These disorders have a strong element of emotional blackmail to them where another’s boundaries are unimportant. This was an eye opener! Continue reading
(Published in Huffington Post)
Oh no. You can hear them coming down the hall and are wishing you could hide under your desk. Being on a team project with them can feel like there’s no escaping them. You know who I’m talking about: the nay-sayers and folks who seem to go around thinking there’s a contest to be won for complaining or seeing the worst out of every situation.
I remember a friend’s husband being one of the most negative people I have ever met. If you said the sun was shining, he’d start talking about global warming. Any idea you had that made you feel inspired and motivated, he could throw cold water on it and prove to you why it would not work and the plain pointlessness of it all. Continue reading
When I overheard those friends in a restaurant booth talking about the boss going away, I chuckled.
Twenty years ago, as an office manager for a controlling and intense financial professional, the whole staff would look forward to his business trips and vacations.
When he was away, I would give each of my staff a “mental health day” at home. They needed to recuperate from the intensity of pleasing this impossible to please person. I insisted that they go home and catch their breath. Continue reading
If you are an avoider, you are likely a sensitive person afraid to upset someone. So you hold on to that concern until it seems like a good time to say something when you think it will be well received. And it never feels right. Sigh.
We need to give the people we are avoiding the data they need, so they can give us what we want or need. To help you get a quick start, I condensed my program called “Ask For What You Want” to a simple 4 step cheat sheet.
Grab that cool cheat sheet here!
Have you ever said, “I can’t fit another thing on my plate. My plate is too full, there’s no room.”? Do you think you’ve reached capacity?
I wanted to share a bit the story of a client I was counselling. She worked part-time and could barely manage it.
She had health problems and an abusive ex-husband who bothered her regularly. The biggest challenge was her intellectually disabled, behaviourally challenged 22 year daughter with Schizophrenia who was living with her. Continue reading
Also published on Huffington Post
Lately, my schedule has had a huge to-do list every day. I move from one task to the next with barely time to plan ahead. I thought I’d share three slightly embarrassing wake up calls that made me realize that it’s time to slow down and do things differently.
Last Thursday morning, looking at the day’s events ahead I decided to book a couple of personal afternoon appointments at the end of my workday that I had been putting off.
I called my dog’s groomer to see if I could bring him over to get his nails clipped at 3 PM. Continue reading