From Second Guessing Yourself to Personal Power

We all want to be part of a dynamic team where everyone feels valued and feel that they can tap into their personal power.
But if you are being honest with yourself, when you think of work, do you sometimes feel unheard, dismissed or even disrespected?
I sure did for years and years. I second guessed myself, didn’t think I was worthy unless someone else gave me permission to speak or would validate what I had said.

I Became a Student of Human Behavior

While I was going around in emotional circles, I saw people around me who didn’t live in fear and anxiety like I did. It took a lot to trigger them to feel intense stress and they naturally rode the ups and downs of life with confidence. I set out to figure out what they did differently and it made all the difference to my happiness levels.

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5 Reasons You Need Better Boundaries

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In the video below, join me while I explore how poor boundaries impact your family and your professional life.

If you’ve wondered what do do first, we will review the first steps you need to take to develop healthier dynamics in your relationships.

Five Great Reasons explored:

  • 1- Your Health
  • 2- Increases Compassion
  • 3-Feel Less Disappointed
  • 4-Be a Better Parent (Leader)
  • 5-Be More Promotable

 

 

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I am Woman, Hear me Roar

Do you know your employment value? I learned about the emotional benefit of getting an unbiased opinion when I helped someone write her CV around 30 years ago.

In my new home typing venture, my first client worked at a local bank. She was a lovely, nervous woman who wanted to know if I could provide a confidential service and help her write a new CV.   Continue reading

Stop procrastinating that request for a behavior change

It can happen to anyone. We decide not to say something, because it seem so innocuous, but now it’s driving us crazy.

If it’s been awhile, we can feel silly for bringing it up. But not saying anything can and often will damage your relationship or your reputation.

Here’s a video on what I tell my clients that helps them over that initial hurdle. Continue reading

You are Amazing! Wait. What did you say?

Out of the blue, someone I know professionally wrote me a quick Facebook private message telling me he thinks I’m amazing. Truthfully, I didn’t even know how to respond. I read it and sat with it for a couple of hours before I responded. It truly confused and bothered me.

He was not pointing to anything in particular I had done.
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Am I allowed to say that?

When I first heard “haters gotta hate”, I didn’t know what it meant until I changed the words to “saboteurs gotta sabotage”. Then it made sense.

When I decided to go out on my own and be an entrepreneur, the skills I needed were opposite from what my environment taught me.

After all, to attract paying clients, I have to put myself out there.
I have to tell people my stories so they can laugh at what not to do.
This is my method of teaching others what I have learned in the school of hard knocks. Continue reading

The Truth About Stigma For Mental Health Workers

Having worked in mental health and as a crisis worker, I have seen the back storage room of the store. It’s not good news. Bell Let’s Talk day (January 25th) is a reminder of how much we need to blow the lid off the stigma of mental Illness, for everyone.

I am thinking of a woman that I really admire. She had spent most of her social worker years helping people afflicted with different mental health disorders. Continue reading

Free Yourself From Emotional Blackmail At Work And At Home

emotional blackmail(Published in Huffington Post)

As a recovering doormat, I struggled with setting boundaries.  But first, I needed to figure out when my boundaries were actually being crossed. When working as a counselor in mental health, I got a crash course on personality disorders. These disorders have a strong element of emotional blackmail to them where another’s boundaries are unimportant. This was an eye opener! Continue reading

Challenging Your Confidence and Taking it to the Bank

take your confidence to the bankIt was 1979 and fresh out of high school, she was excited to have her first real job in a bank so close to her house. Even though it was entry level, the HR girl had told her that her testing indicated she scored extremely high and was ready to be promoted as soon as a cashier post opened up. She settled into the checking department, waiting for that opportunity.

Although everyone started in checking or savings, some never left because they didn’t have the right touch with the customers. Debbie, the girl who sat across from her, was not very bright. Although they could both apply for any opening, she felt confident that Debbie was not serious competition. There was no doubt that she would get the next job. Continue reading

27 Signs you May be a Doormat at Work

avoiding difficult peopleDo you suspect you are a doormat at work?

You are successful. People look to you to solve their problems. You love it! You’ve worked hard to get where you are. It’s not just what you do that’s great; it’s also the type of person you try to be, every day. Respectful. Concerned for others. Always looking for the combination of fairness with others and optimal results for the company.

Then, someone comes along who undermines you, makes confusing passive-aggressive comments or just plain avoids responsibility. They break promises and have all types of excuses. Continue reading