Am I allowed to say that?

When I first heard “haters gotta hate”, I didn’t know what it meant until I changed the words to “saboteurs gotta sabotage”. Then it made sense.

When I decided to go out on my own and be an entrepreneur, the skills I needed were opposite from what my environment taught me.

After all, to attract paying clients, I have to put myself out there.
I have to tell people my stories so they can laugh at what not to do.
This is my method of teaching others what I have learned in the school of hard knocks. Continue reading

How to Communicate with Someone who is Suffering from a Psychosis

Mental health is top of mind for all employers. When we are faced with someone struggling with anxiety, depression or other main stream challenges, there is a lot of information out there to help us help them.

But when our valuable employee seems to be very sick, perhaps paranoid or delusional, what to do is not taught in HR or business school.

And if someone we love is struggling, we worry about upsetting them and hurting the relationship. So we stay silent.

Over the years, I’ve learned a few tricks so I’m going to give a crash course Wednesday of next week. Click below to learn more and register for the webinar.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Here’s what we’ll cover.

  • Are they being difficult when they refuse to go for help?
  • Are they in denial?
  • What should you be saying?
  • What should you NOT be saying?

Join us to find out how to help the person in difficulty.

After I’ve shared some information, there will be a Q & A.

For people who know someone who is sick and refuse to believe they need help, this information can save a life.

For the rest of us, it’s just really good to know when dealing with someone who doesn’t believe there’s anything wrong with them.

HERE IS THAT LINK AGAIN! Join us and share it with others. 

May all those you care about be brain healthy!

Monique Caissie’s facilitated dialogue “Demystifying Mental Illness” tackles the taboos and is appreciated by organizations that are ready to improve their professional and personal lives. Monique draws from 30 years of crisis intervention work to empower others to have more productive dialogues and improve collaboration in the workplace. You can download a brochure on these services here.

 

5 Ways That Valentine’s Day Can Improve Your Professional Life

We begin every year with new resolutions and a commitment to making positive changes in our life. A fresh start! Healthier habits! Better relationships! Then it’s January 3rd

Well for better relationships, we get to try again starting on February 14th.

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Survival Guide to the Holiday Flu

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I still remember as a little girl while at school, I suddenly began to feel very poorly and almost passed out. When the school nurse took my temperature, she immediately called my father to come bring me home. By the time he got there, the cold compresses had had their effect and I felt quite normal. My father punished me for faking a temperature and pretending to faint. To this day when I get sick, I try to power through, convincing myself that it will pass. Continue reading

How To Handle Political Differences At The Dinner Table

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Growing up in Montreal, Quebec during the rise of a separatist political party in the 1970’s, this gave me a front row seat to how families can be divided because of political differences. Every Sunday, after church, this division played out in my living room.
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Free Your Life And Career From Emotional Blackmail

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As a recovering doormat, I struggled with setting boundaries.  But first, I needed to figure out when my boundaries were actually being crossed. When working as a counselor in mental health, I got a crash course on personality disorders. These disorders have a strong element of emotional blackmail to them where another’s boundaries are unimportant. This was an eye opener! Continue reading

How To Weeble Your Way To Success

Resilience(Published in Huffington Post)

Years ago, as a single mom I was working very hard to reinvent myself with very few credentials to my name. My financial and emotional bank accounts were constantly being drained with demands and responsibilities. There were days where I would have preferred to stay in bed for a month, but I got out of bed, painted on a smile and picked up my boxing gloves; just like every under-employed single mom I knew.

At work, I had a colleague named Raj. He had a Master’s degree in Mathematics, came from a prominent family, and was newly engaged to a professional woman. They were living the dream and had life by the balls! Continue reading

How to Support a Sexual Assault Survivor in the Workplace

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OK. So every week I sit and write an article. I try to be practical and use my critical thinking skills looking to give people tools. Honestly, this week, I was truly distracted and disgusted by the Access Hollywood video and subsequent denials by the Republican nominee. While people are asking themselves if he should get a pass because they don’t like his opponent, my mind has gone straight to his victims and how courageous they are. But also, to the victims that are keeping silent out of fear of reprisals from this litigious and entitled wealthy monster. Continue reading

Do They Know They’re Being Aggressive?

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(Published in Huffington Post)

I’m currently taking a refresher course on dealing with aggressiveness in someone we want to have a relationship with. When someone tells me that they are chronically being treated aggressively, it is clear that people are not insisting on respect as the foundation of their communications. Often, because they don’t even know how to begin.

If someone behaves in a way where they chronically treat you disrespectfully, even if it is an old problem with a lot of history, it’s not too late!

This is what you have to do: Continue reading

Talking About Suicide At Work Shouldn’t Be Taboo

suicide preventionAlso published in Huffington Post.  Waiting for my job interview, I noticed a photo of a happy couple on the receptionist’s desk. Clearly it was a picture of her with an attractive young man. I smiled and asked her if that was her sweetheart. She gently touched the photo and said “No it’s my brother”.This seemed odd to me so I asked her why she had it at work. She said that he had recently died.

Of course I immediately gave her my condolences and expressed how sad and horrible to lose one so young. Continue reading